Go Ahead and Kiss


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“You may now kiss the bride.”

Do you remember hearing those words on your wedding day? With all the nerves and excitement, maybe you don’t, but you definitely remember the kiss. The audience probably clapped. And then you were introduced as a married couple. Why were you told you could kiss? Because kissing has traditionally been a very intimate and romantic act between a man and a woman. It sealed the deal.

Romantic kissing isn’t a new invention. The Bible records 25 kisses, and three of those are romantic kisses (Song of Songs 1:2; 8:1; and Proverbs 7:13). Recently, researchers have discovered that romantic kissing is about 1,000 years older than previously thought. Mesopotamian documents record romantic kisses over 4,500 years ago!

Few things have survived four and half millennia, but passionate kissing certainly has.  Kissing holds a remarkable power in marriage relationships. Here are four important benefits of kissing your spouse passionately:

  1. Kissing is a bonding experience.

    Kissing creates a bond that goes beyond the physical act itself. According to relationship expert John Gottman, frequent kissing helps couples establish and keep a deep emotional connection. Physical touch, closeness, and the shared vulnerability of a kiss communicate love, desire, and commitment, which can make us feel secure and connected.

  2. Kissing is good for your body.

    Kissing activates various physiological responses in our bodies that help to strengthen our emotional bonds. When we kiss, our brains release a surge of oxytocin, often called the “love hormone.” This hormone enhances feelings of trust, attachment, and affection. Kissing also stimulates the release of dopamine, the “pleasure chemical,” which contributes to feelings of happiness and contentment.

  3. Kissing relieves stress.

    Stress is a part of life. Thankfully, kissing provides a natural remedy. Kissing reduces stress levels by lowering cortisol, the stress hormone. Sharing a heartfelt kiss with your spouse can create a calming effect, promoting relaxation and emotional well-being.

  4. Kissing expresses love and desire.

    Kisses are beautiful expressions of love and desire. According to Gottman, couples who prioritize passionate kissing report higher levels of relationship satisfaction. Kissing is a way to express deep affection, desire, and attraction, which reminds a couple of the spark that ignited their love story. Kissing will remind you of the passion and connection that drew you together.


    Kissing isn’t just for newlyweds. It is an art you can explore and refine together over a lifetime. Experimenting with different types of kisses, from gentle and tender to playful and passionate. Regularly engaging in passionate kisses can reignite the flames of desire and strengthen your bond. Prioritize passionate kissing as part of your amazing story together.

    You may kiss … and you really should.

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