Marriage is full of ups and downs and love can deepen over time—not because life is always perfect, but because there’s a commitment to knowing and supporting each other through every season.
Sometimes, the more a couple learns about each other, the harder it can be to maintain those romantic feelings—especially during tough or stressful seasons. What was once endearing might start to grate on the nerves: that quirky laugh you loved at first might suddenly feel like nails on a chalkboard, or the “man smell” after a workout becomes less charming and more offensive. Life’s daily grind can wear down even the closest of connections, leading couples to drift apart, speak only out of necessity, and feel like intimacy is just another item on an endless to-do list. It’s during these moments, however, that intentional effort is needed to turn things around before bitterness or regret takes root.
Here are three ways a husband can romance his wife and strengthen their connection:
1. Remember what made you say “I do” and share it with her.
Reflecting on what first drew a husband to his wife can reignite love and appreciation. A love letter listing the top 10 things loved about a spouse, for example, can become a treasured keepsake. Over the years, continuing to remind a wife of her qualities—whether through a thoughtful note or an unexpected hug and smile—shows that she is still valued. Husbands can take time to affirm their wives, recalling positive memories and expressing admiration. These simple acts help replace negative thoughts with love and gratitude, drawing hearts closer together.
2. Be her biggest encourager.
Words have incredible power in a marriage. A husband’s affirmations can lift his wife’s spirits and remind her of their partnership. Encouragement makes a wife feel respected and supported, even during tough days. Likewise, affirmations can brighten a husband’s mood and strengthen their bond. Whether through kind words, loving actions, or simply being present, husbands can show their unwavering support. This mutual encouragement fosters a partnership built on trust, respect, and a shared commitment to each other (Romans 15:5).
3. Show daily commitment to your marriage and family.
Commitment is the cornerstone of a healthy marriage. Love thrives when both spouses demonstrate unwavering dedication. Husbands can show this by listening actively, spending intentional time with their wives, and being transparent. Weekly date nights, for instance, can be prioritized and planned intentionally to maintain connection. Open communication and shared details in life foster trust and intimacy. Real, lasting romance grows out of this deep commitment, time spent together, and a shared investment in the marriage (Hebrews 13:5).
Never Stop Pursuing Her
Husbands, the most romantic thing you can do is to show your wife—every single day—that you are 100% committed to her. Let her know she is attractive, valued, and loved, no matter the season. Pursue her as intentionally now as in the beginning. Pray for her, nurture your marriage, and view her as the gift from God that she truly is. Whether newly married or celebrating decades together, this kind of consistent devotion will keep the spark alive and deepen your connection for years to come.