At first, this might sound like terrible advice. Let your spouse win every argument? Just throw in the towel, nod along, and accept defeat? Absolutely!
(Just kidding…kind of.)
Imagine this: Your spouse insists that the toilet paper roll should go under, not over. You know this is a ridiculous take, but instead of engaging in an hour-long debate, you take a deep breath and say, “You know what? You might be right.”
Boom. Instant peace. Relationship saved.
Now, before you think we’re suggesting you turn into a doormat, let’s be clear, this isn’t about surrendering on major issues or ignoring your own needs. It’s about realizing that not every battle needs a winner (or a casualty).
So, let’s break down the wisdom behind this strategy.
When You or Your Spouse Are Tired, Hungry, or Sexually Frustrated
DON’T: Pick a fight when emotions are running high.
We’ve all been there. You’re exhausted, stressed, or starving, and suddenly, your spouse’s habit of leaving cabinet doors open feels like a personal attack. In these moments, it’s easy to snap with something like:
- “Why can’t you ever just listen to me?!”
- “You don’t even care how I feel!”
Spoiler alert: These statements do not lead to productive conversations.
DO: Recognize the real issue (and solve it first).
Instead of picking a fight, take a step back and assess: Are you actually upset, or are you just in desperate need of a snack, a nap, or in an affection deficit? Before words fly, try saying:
- “Hey, I’m sorry. I think I’m just exhausted. Let’s talk later when I’m not running on fumes.”
- “You seem stressed—how can I help?”
Turns out, avoiding unnecessary arguments is way easier when you handle the real problem first. And if all else fails, we would recommend the Instant Argument Stopper Button—but since that tragically doesn’t exist, how about a little daily inspiration instead?
I Will: 365 Daily Promises might be just what you need to reset, refocus, and remember why you love each other (even when you’re debating the right way to load the dishwasher).
When You’re Furious Because Your Spouse Disagrees with You
DON’T: Use threats as weapons.
Nothing escalates a minor disagreement into a full-blown war like throwing out ultimatums:
- “If you don’t do this, I won’t talk to you.”
- “Maybe I should just leave.”
- “Fine, I guess you don’t even love me.”
These might feel powerful in the moment, but they only create resentment and once those words are out, they’re tough to take back.
DO: Pick your battles (and sometimes, just let them win).
Here’s the truth: Some things aren’t worth the fight. If the argument is over something small, like the best way to load the dishwasher or whether the bedroom chair should be for sitting or inevitably become a laundry pile, consider just letting it go. Not because you’re weak, but because your relationship matters more than being right.
This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t stand up for what’s important.
It just means that choosing peace over proving a point makes you a true relationship genius.
So, the next time your spouse insists that their way is best, try this:
- “You might be right.”
- “I can see where you’re coming from.”
- “Honestly, this isn’t worth us arguing over.”
Not only will you avoid unnecessary tension, but you’ll also build a relationship where respect, love, and laughter win every time.
And in case you’re wondering—yes, toilet paper should always go over, but let your spouse have this one.