…this is just the start of a lifetime together and getting to know one another intimately, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.
You’ve waited months for your wedding, ordered flowers, tasted cakes, and sent out invitations. But now it’s time for the honeymoon, which can leave you both excited and maybe a little nervous or anxious.
Whether this is your first time or your first time together, there can be a lot of pressure from both the world and the church for your honeymoon and wedding night to be perfect and excellent… something you may not be prepared for or even know what to expect.
We get it and want to remove that pressure; it’s okay if you don’t immediately become an expert at all things sex magically; it’s okay if the first time it lasts only a few minutes and if it’s not a perfect night. You have the rest of your lives together to figure sex out together and get great at it with each other, but here are four ways to prepare for the honeymoon.
Enjoying Sex When You Don’t Like Your Body
1. Talk about it!
Share your expectations with your soon-to-be spouse. Share your desires, worries, all of it! Also, discuss whether you will use a form of birth control or not and what that might look like.
2. Research lube and condoms (if that’s something you’ll be using).
Not all are created equal! Most have ingredients that can cause irritations and potentially even stinging or pain. Research before you buy and look for one that is water-based and free of parabens, glycerin, and fragrance.
3. Prepare your body and pelvic floor muscles!
Try different stretches like child’s pose and hip mobility exercises in the coming weeks or days before your honeymoon. These will help strengthen and prepare your pelvic floor muscles and help make sex more enjoyable.
4. Binge watch the best of XO Marriage!
Regardless of what your honeymoon looks like, know that this is just the start of a lifetime together and getting to know one another intimately, physically, emotionally, and spiritually.